Thursday, January 8, 2009

Role Reversal

It sure is different being a career mom and giving Shane the responsibility of the stay-at-home parent. But I really like it. I keep saying this, but I feel so in my element. I feel like I'm flourishing as a person now. I honestly don't seem as drained and frustrated as when I was home every day with Oliver. I loved it...but it was such a challenge for me, and I really learned a lot. Hopefully I'll be somewhat more prepared for the next kid. But I keep hearing that since every kid is so different there's no way to prepare and be ready for it.

Oliver is adjusting really well too. In fact, he's always been able to adapt to his surroundings rather easily. When I say goodbye he just smiles and watches me go. When I see him after work (Shane brings him to my office while I finish things up), he acts like it's all so normal. But he is a lot more cuddly that time of day. :)

Shane seems to really enjoy focusing so much time on Oliver. He's motivated to teach him and discipline him. I think he's realizing how much work it really is though. And that taking care of a kid and keeping house does not leave time for much else. Perhaps remodeling a home will not be as easy as we will probably be a longer process (which might be better anyway to sit on a house right now while the market is in this state).

All in all, we're really feeling good about the role-changes. Shane is so supportive of my work and says he can't believe how perfect it is for me...for us. We're moving into a small apartment this weekend that will buy us some time before we decide on a home to purchase. There are a lot of changes still ahead...and we're ready.


Steph Smith said...

You are so cool. Career and family-- I hope I can have both one day. I'm so happy for you getting to use your degree. That must feel validating of all that school. I can use MY degree to tell you that according to your description, Oliver is securely attached to you the way he can say bye and know you're coming back. Write again soon and tell us about the new job...

Steph Smith said...

Do you guys have a cell phone yet? And am I still sending packages to Idaho?